I am not a typical client because of the length of time I have trained. But my statement is important I think because the most profound changes have come in the second year of training long after the elimination of symptoms.

I have (or had) severe ADHD. But that would be the tip of the iceberg. I had all of the fun associated with it (depression, anxiety, dysfunctional behaviors adopted from generations of ADHD/depressive/alcoholics). I had gone to therapy for years but had given up hope of being “cured”. I had resigned myself to living with my “disability”, not over stressing myself, eating right, exercising, making lists and accepting less than healthy relationships.

When I met James, I was in a very unhealthy relationship for 18 years (4 young children). I wanted to leave, but felt I couldn't. I was too frightened. There were the usual threats (abuse) but my main concern was that I couldn't care for and support four children on my own with my ADHD. I went to James to treat the ADHD.

After starting neurofeedback I asked my husband to leave (after 2 months of training), returned to college (1 year), graduated yesterday by the way. I no longer withdraw/escape/hyperfocus into activities and addictions such as excessive computer use, reading, shopping etc., I read directions (ooohh…ahhh) and can listen to endless lectures with superwoman-like focus and attention. Teachers have stopped me to thank me for giving them my full attention saying that they focus on me in class when they speak (I don't tell them, "it's not personal, I have trained with neurofeedback for 2 years. I could listen to anyone about anything"). I don't say inappropriate things anymore (although I admit to dancing on the edge still because I like it). I do not lose my temper with my children ever. I remain calm and alert no matter what stimuli is thrown at me.

Although the first 6 months was sufficient, I think, to eliminate most of the ADHD symptoms, depression and anxiety, it took another 6 months or so to develop 'profound attention'. That profound attention enabled me to reach (truly love, so that they felt loved) my children who were so angry and withdrawn themselves. In the past year I have again noticed some big changes, a feeling of peace and happiness (sometimes I think of it as love for the world) all of the time. Even during busy or even sad periods that feeling is always there underneath. Now I consider that feeling to be “me” (not what I do or think). With that feeling I can face even the harshest of realities. That means I can and have looked at my past behaviors without rose colored glasses and changed those behavior patterns permanently. I will continue with neurofeedback to see what happens next although I have gone far beyond what I ever dreamed of.

I also can write about my daughter, who made honor roll and had perfect scores in behavior for the first time. But again, the most important thing is she is happy and resilient.